Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)
I have a hyper sense of failure. Some of the things that have driven me forward in my life is not always a desire to achieve, but a fear of falling flat on my face. It always follows in the same order: I start moving towards a goal I have and then once I have the wheels in motion, fear of fumbling takes control. I recognize its not the best way to operate, yet it is so entrenched in my psyche, I battle with it constantly.
As I work with clients, I see fear manifested in many ways. For some the fear of failure prevents them from getting started. For some it’s the fear of loosing what they already have.
How many times have you heard that failure is only another opportunity to learn, failure only occurs when you don’t try again, and any other number of quips, quotes and anecdotes.
I’ve found this is the way I overcome my fear and help clients overcome theirs:
- What is the worst case scenario?
- Decide if you can live with that scenario
- What is the best case scenario?
- What is the most likely result?
If I do this, I can get away from operating on a fear of failure and move towards my best case scenario.